inevitable. Here is what you can do. Have a plan to transform potentially harmful reactions toʼ situationsʼ into healthy responses. Re-think how you Think. Some situations are predictable. Prepare a response–or non response! When a relative makes a negative or even stupid comment, do what I call ʻmind-shiftingʼ. You know the reality of the ʻsituationʼ. Don’t over react. Consider if your initial reaction to this person was an automatic negative thoughts (ANT) based on old ideas or roles. Consider the gift of Forgiveness. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Set a goal to repair broken relationships this holiday season. Families change and grow as do traditions. Be open to your idea of ʻrolesʼ of various people in your family…including yours.
appreciation of family demands and challenges is okay. But kids today have unprecedented access in real time troubling events. Kids are often collateral damage in parent conﬂicts. They hear our talk about life and interpret “breaking news”. They text & listen! Our kids experience anxiety, worry, and fear. And of course donʼt forget downloadable teen video creating and perpetuating expectations of perpetual happiness. This holiday season include a
speciﬁc plan for spending extra non structured time with the children in your life. Listen and understand whatʼs worrying them and why. Finally, let them know there is CERTAINTY IN YOUR LOVE for them and your efforts to make the world a better place for their future. For APA study details: http://www.apa.org/releases/stress-children.html.
give and receive with those who have more or less than you. Don’t be embarrassed. Reach out and ask for help if you need it. Check out private and public resources. Then give back. One of the best gifts is to give time to someone older in your family or religious community if you belong to one. Listen and let them reminisce. If you know someone who is ill–visit and sit with them. Just be there.
then the director of the hypertension section of Boston’s Beth Israel Hospital studied the physical and mental effects of a variety of methods of evoking a calm state, including yoga and several forms of meditation. The PowerPause triggers the release of anti-stress hormones, decreases your heart rate, and lowers your metabolic rate and your rate of breathing right at your desk!
The stresses of the holiday season are varied, but having control over them be a powerful and rewarding feeling.
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Happy Holidays from Dr. Carol Scott, and Stress Relief Radio!